Bodies

Vibrators cannot “desensitize” anyone in any permanent way. There have never been any findings through sound research which have shown that vibrators or other vigorous stimulation of the clitoris do anyone harm or change anyone’s anatomy or sexual response permanently. Sure, they can kind of numb…

Sounds to me like you could use some good, old-fashioned vulva reclaiming. And it’s so not just you that does, I swear. Let’s start by tossing out terms like “va-jay-jay.” Seriously, when television writers – on a medical show, of all things – have to be cute about it you know we’re living in a…

A lot of people don’t realize that there are changes to the vulva during puberty. The labia and clitoris so expand some, and in addition, because of the rest of your body growing and changes in your body composition, the mons of the vulva tends to pull back, which can result in the inner labia…

A couple of years ago, I learned to knit and I got really really interested in knitting. Anytime I was sitting still (and sometimes when I was moving) I was knitting. But then, after a while, I sorta stopped getting that urge to knit everytime I sat still. It wasn’t that I didn’t enjoy knitting. It…

I’m afraid that there isn’t a whole lot I can do for you, Guyman. You’re right: it is totally normal right now for you to feel strong sexual desires, and to get pretty excited when you’re around people that you’re attracted to. It’s also certainly more profound because of your age. It does settle…

“Where the heck do the eggs go?” is a pretty common question around here, whether someone on a hormonal method is asking, or someone NOT on a method is asking. After all, when an egg isn’t fertilized it’s got to go somewhere, too. And when someone understands that we are born with WAY more ovum –…

The technical term for “blue balls” is vasocongestion. It really isn’t about balls at all, and it happens to people of all genders. Here’s the deal: when any of us gets very sexually aroused, one thing that happens is that our whole pelvic area tends to fill with blood. That’s how penises get…

Reprinted from S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-to-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and College , © 2007 Heather Corinna/Marlowe & Company. Illustration by Molly Crabapple. Want to print out copies for yourself? Click here to download one in PDF format. Enjoy!

We get a LOT of questions like this, every single day, and have for as long as we’ve been online. Here are just a few more recent ones: I have been with my boyfriend for the last three years, and just last May we had sex for the first time. I was a virgin, he was not. We have had sex on a few…

You know, KY is really one of the lower quality lubricants out there. If you’re using the jelly, it really isn’t going to help much, but even their liquid lubes aren’t as good as a lot of others in my opinion. An excellent lubricant is not only as good as “natural” lubricant, sometimes it’s even…