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(Anonymous’ question continued) Especially, when I consider anal sex because, well, why would they want to do that, other than increase their own pleasure. The problem is, I actually enjoy anal, I just… these days, I hate the idea of letting anyone have it. So, basically I’m being ridiculously…

Leahcar’s question continued, This must sound so strange but I’m finally being honest with myself and need to get it out there for someone else to know about before I burst. I won’t tell anyone I know about these feelings, but they just frustrate me all the time. It makes me so depressed because I…

Our sexual orientation is about who we do feel attracted to, sexually and emotionally. It’s not about who we’re not frustrated with, who we are not attracted to, who might make do or what someone else’s orientation is. The organization Avert does a really nice job of laying out what sexual…

Menstrual suppression is becoming increasingly popular, and has been widely promoted for women. For some, especially women with reproductive health issues which are helped by suppressing periods, it’s an obvious boon, and some using it electively also report it to be a blessing. But what about the health risks? What about the attitudes informing that choice which cheerlead suppression by maligning menstruation? What about the benefits, emotional and physical, our periods can offer us? An opinionated, no-holds-barred look at the whole works and a paean to the period, no matter what a woman chooses to do with it.

The only person who needs to be convinced they are gay, bisexual, lesbian, heterosexual or any other kind of orientation is that person. We don’t need to convince others of what our orientation is or prove our orientation to anyone. That girl you know doesn’t need to convince you she’s gay, nor…

Do you think you or your friends are too young to know if you’re straight? Hint: there’s actually no right answer to that one. If you say yes, people at 14 can know they’re heterosexual, then it only makes sense to posit that if a person can know they are one orientation at that age, they can know…

The next thing to do after a family member says that to you is simply to acknowledge what they have disclosed and honor that it can be scary to do that – such as by saying something like, “I’m glad you felt safe telling me about your bisexuality.” You can also reassure them that until they’re ready…

It’s typically assumed that sex and gender are the same. They’re not. What’s gender all about, then? What is the range of gender and gender identity, and how does gender impact our lives and how we live them?

Any kind of sex between people of the same gender is as normal as sex between people of different genders as far as I am concerned. In other words, it is normal – and has always been relatively common – for people of all genders and stripes to have sexual intimacy or to explore sexuality together…

This is as fine a place to ask as any. :) You know, this is the case with most people with any kind of emotional maturity who knows that people are more than two-dimensional and sex is about people, not appearances or our ideas about people based on appearance. Of course, we can look at someone in a…