Relationships

Are you at a point in your life and relationship where you’re considering moving in with a partner? We’ve got the scoop on some things to consider, talk through and get going in advance to be sure that if you make the move to shack up, it’s a good one.

Does your relationship need a basic checkup to be sure it’s healthy and well? Here’s a list for doing just that.

I want to first make a few things clear about any judgments you may be making about yourself or might assume will be made in my answer to you. I don’t like terms like “easy” when they carry derogatory judgments, for the same reason I don’t like terms like “prude” used or internalized that way. If…

You probably hear the term “healthy relationship” a lot. But what does that mean, and how do you create – and keep building – one of those?

Nimpup’s question continues: I know I could go down there and check but, I get too turned on when I see inside it and I just to want to have sex right then and there, so it’s very hard for me to look for her. We’ve tried burning incense that is supposed to help stimulate us but it seems to only…

Making out with an ex whom you still have feelings for isn’t really an issue of being right or wrong morally: I’d say it’s more about being honest with yourself and doing what’s right for you. Right now this arrangement doesn’t seem to be a good match for your needs and wants. Casual sex generally…

As we go through childhood and our teens, our boundaries tend to change. It’s typical for young people growing up to want increasing privacy and also to have an expanding personal space bubble: to want your family and other people close to you to support you feeling like your body is absolutely your…

Congratulations on starting college and on your great new relationship with a guy who means a lot and treats you well! This is an exciting time in many ways, and I’m glad to hear that you’re interested in waiting on getting sexual until you both feel ready for it. It sounds like you just started…

I don’t think that how we feel emotionally is ever about a matter of rights. We cannot control what we feel, after all: we can only control how we process, hold, express and manage our feelings. You feel upset: whether or not you or anyone else thinks you have a right to have those feelings, there…

Hi aroplane, I’m sorry to hear that your long-distance relationship is causing you so much pain. It sounds like the two of you both really love and just downright like one another, and time has told you that those feelings are really strong. The one and only but huge challenge is the distance…