Relationships

morphobutterfly’s question continued: I’ve finally found myself in a place where I feel a lot more comfortable with myself, men & sex, & I felt ready to sleep with someone. I didn’t have any love & rose-petal fantasies in mind; on the contrary, I felt that I wanted to do it without the drama of any…

I’m always so glad when I hear from someone clearly thinking ahead, who wants to establish sexual communication and boundaries early on, rather than after boundaries have been crossed or well after communication was needed. Well done! Kudos to you for planning to take the initiative yourself, rather…

It certainly sounds like this isn’t a good sexual relationship for you, and perhaps hasn’t been throughout. I’m not surprised you’re feeling dissatisfied, and not surprised you find yourself experiencing anger and resentment around your sex life in this relationship. It sounds not only like your…

If I had an award to give each day for great awareness and forward-thinking about potential partners and relationships, you’d get it today, hands-down. Actually, you should just take it for this whole month. Seriously, this is really sage thinking on your part, and so valid per both of your best…

The core of what you’re asking about is a biggie, one whole books have been written about. As someone who tends to be verbose, I could certainly write you a book, but I’ll spare you an encyclopedia, aim for a summary and will probably land somewhere in between. Based on what you posted, I don’t see…

I don’t know what “just being a guy” means. I’m not messing with you, it’s just that boys and men, like girls, women and everyone else, vary so much. There’s just no one way guys are or behave. For sure, if he identifies as a guy, he’s going to be a guy no matter what, but who that guy is and what…

What do or might you want to do, not want to do or aren’t sure about when it comes to sex with a partner? Take stock with this awesomely in-depth list.

Long story short? You asked her. She says she doesn’t. So, you either believe her or you don’t, ultimately. She also seems to be expressing great frustration and distress that you’re not extending trust to her and believing what she tells you. We can trust someone whether they’re right next to us or…

What someone likes or doesn’t like, both in general and more specifically as it relates to pleasure, is an intensely personal thing. As much as we sometimes like to pretend this isn’t true, there just aren’t universals about certain activities that Every Single Person Ever absolutely loves, or…

Well, the only person who knows for sure if your partner is being honest with you would be your partner. I think that is just one reason why it sounds pretty important that you revisit this discussion with him, particularly if he doesn’t know you’re still feeling unsettled or uncomfortable even…