What’s sex? What’s sexuality? How do people experience and actively express their sexualities, by themselves, with partners or both? How can we take part in sex in ways that are wanted and consensual, physically and emotionally safe and enjoyable for everyone? How do you figure out what you like? How can you communicate about sex? How do you deal with feelings like fear, shame, anxiety, dysphoria and other body image issues? How do you create the kind of sexual life you want? You’ll find the answers to all these and more here.
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Bea
I have been taking celexa for my anxiety disorder for a few months now. I feel like my desire for sex is basically gone since. Before, I would self-gratify sometimes when I did feel desire, but now I...
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Did pills make me ace?
- s.e. smith
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Breathe: Risks, Realities, and Safer Alternatives to Choking and Breath Play
- Heather Corinna
- Giselle Woodley
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- Heather Corinna
Before I dig in here, I want to make clear that I don’t think there is any one right age, right time, or right kind of relationship for everyone when it comes to what makes sex right or best. That varies from person-to-person a lot, and isn’t usually based on something as simple as only how old we…
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- CJ Turett
It sounds like you’ve found an effective and pleasurable way for you to enjoy masturbation! There is huge variety in what people find pleasurable or comfortable. Lots of folks report that direct clitoral stimulation is too much or otherwise uncomfortable, and then there are plenty of others who…
Advice
- CJ Turett
The first thing I want to mention here is that I’m not sure there is such a thing as “a normal teenager”! Seriously, each individual is different, with different needs and desires, and so there is no one way to be in the world. The best we can do is make decisions that are well-informed and that…
Advice
- Heather Corinna
What it sounds like, to me, is that whatever it is you’ve been doing sexually just isn’t something you feel okay with yet or good about right now. I get that it feels good at the time, but when I talk about sex feeling good, any kind of sexual activities at all, what I mean is sex feeling good…
Article
- halfwish
We hear so many horror stories about first-time sex. Perhaps it might be good therapy to read about a first time that went well.
Advice
- Heather Corinna
Let’s shift this question a little bit, because ultimately, what you’re asking isn’t just about guys. You’re asking if there is one way where orgasm or ejaculation feels better or best for any given group of people. The easy answer, and the truest answer, to that is no: just like there isn’t any one…
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- Stephanie
You know people really are all very different, and usually when we try to compare one partner with those of our past we miss the mark by a long shot because of those differences. So lets break your question down into a few different parts and take things one at a time. Let’s take the big question…
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- CJ Turett
Short answer: Absolutely, yes. There could be—and likely are—plenty of other reasons why your boyfriend does not want to do sexual things with you. Longer answer: Our decision about whether to have sex, or whether to engage in any type of sexual behavior is rarely the result of a single factor. It’s…
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- Heather Corinna
Libido – the desire for sex of any given kind – is a very complex thing, much like sex and sexuality are complex. It’s emotional, it’s intellectual, it’s chemical and physiological, it’s both personal and interpersonal, it’s spiritual, it’s metaphysical, it’s historical, it’s aspirational. Our…
Advice
- Stephanie
It’s normal for a woman’s body to respond to anything she finds pleasurable, and every woman’s body responds in similar yet different ways. What you’re really talking about here is arousal. What we know about sexual response is that there is a basic cycle – generally referred to as the sexual…
