Sex & Sexuality

Hi there, You can relax; You’re normal. Ejaculate is usually a relatively small (teaspoon or so) amount of fluid, and generally doesn’t come out with such force that you should feel it. Some women say they CAN feel it, but you’re not abnormal for not being able to feel it, and there is nothing…

Hi Merie, For the record, that awkward sex happens from time to time, no matter who you are, how many partners you’ve had, and how many times you’ve been with said partner. It’s okay, and it’s completely normal. You aren’t doing anything wrong either. Have you told him that while you enjoy being on…

Lisa, I can’t implore you enough not to take this personally and not to think about this as you being inadequate. You’re not inadequate: you two just wanted different things. Our needs and wants and someone else’s needs and wants are just not always going to mesh, even when one or both of us really…

I’m going to assume that when you say “sex” you’re talking about vaginal intercourse. If your boyfriend is going to have partners with vaginas who experience pleasure with sex, he’s going to have to adjust his way of thinking. Most people with vaginas – around 70% – are NOT going to reach orgasm…

You just answered your own question. You don’t need me at all! :) If you don’t think you can handle a sex life right now, and you don’t feel like sex outside of a certain context – which you are not currently in or don’t have the opportunity to be in – fits with what you believe or is going to be…

You know, it can be pretty stressful for guys to feel like they have to have an erection… OR ELSE. It can also be very stressful for anyone to have intercourse for the first time or with a new partner. The real pisser is that stress is one of the most common reasons a guy won’t get an erection or…

Actually, that’s not true about animals. But I’m glad you brought it up, because these are some of my favorite kinds of questions. We can find groups of animals engaging in almost any kind of behavior we find human beings engaging in. When it comes to oral sex – be that with a partner or done by…

So in other words, he’s expecting you to suddenly become psychic, right? What your partner is asking for here seems more than a little unfair to me and I’m guessing that’s something you’re seeing here as well. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to tell a partner that we want them to do something for us…

For men or women, sex is over when one or both partners don’t want to have it anymore, either because they both feel satisfied with the sex they had, or just because one partner or both, even if the sex didn’t result in orgasm, or feel like they wanted it to, just feels done with the whole works and…

You can – and should, in my book – talk about this with him in advance if you have this concern. Neither men nor women lack the ability to be sure, when having any kind of sex with a partner, that we are paying just as much attention to them and what they want as we are to ourselves and what we…