What’s sex? What’s sexuality? How do people experience and actively express their sexualities, by themselves, with partners or both? How can we take part in sex in ways that are wanted and consensual, physically and emotionally safe and enjoyable for everyone? How do you figure out what you like? How can you communicate about sex? How do you deal with feelings like fear, shame, anxiety, dysphoria and other body image issues? How do you create the kind of sexual life you want? You’ll find the answers to all these and more here.
Sex & Sexuality
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Bea
I have been taking celexa for my anxiety disorder for a few months now. I feel like my desire for sex is basically gone since. Before, I would self-gratify sometimes when I did feel desire, but now I...
Advice
Did pills make me ace?
- s.e. smith
Article
Breathe: Risks, Realities, and Safer Alternatives to Choking and Breath Play
- Heather Corinna
- Giselle Woodley
Articles and Advice in this area:
Advice
- Sam Wall
Your question came in well before COVID-19 was on the horizon, but ever since it reared its virus-y head, a LOT of people are finding themselves in your situation. If someone experiences sexual attraction or desire, there is going to be a point in their lives where they feel sexual urges they can’t…
Announcement
- Heather Corinna
Real-deal consent requires clear, open and honest communication. And if we’re going ahead and actually being sexual together in some way, that also means an ongoing, nuanced and pretty highly situational process of communication, not just one or two super-quick, super-basic exchanges. Not only is communication as a process essential to keeping it consensual, it’s a big part of sex actually being any good for everyone involved.
Article
- Heather Corinna
No matter what you call it, masturbation is one of the few things that almost everyone does, has done or will do. Here are some of the basic things to know.
Advice
- Mo Ranyart
The good news is: you aren’t suffering from Too Much Lust, although that might be a fun name for your album when it’s complete. Jokes aside, it’s not wrong or unusual to have sexual feelings about someone you’re crushing on, whether that person is a celebrity you’ve never met or a friend you see…
Article
- Andrew Gurza
When your disabled body decides to literally crap out on you, how do you bring sexy back?
Advice
- s.e. smith
Sex isn’t a tit-for-tat experience, but communicating can help you build a mutually pleasurable and fun sex life.
Advice
- Heather Corinna
I’m always so sad to hear anyone who has the idea that needing – or just plain wanting! – lubricant is some kind of problem, means something is wrong with someone, or that that need is unusual. I also always find myself struggling to understand those feelings, even though I have heard many women…
Article
- Marianne Kirby
A lot of people are talking about “bad sex” when they mean coercive sex. So let’s have a conversation about when sex just isn’t satisfying.
Article
- Heather Corinna
Surviving in the sexual wilds – and having your great adventures be just that, great – involves some basic smarts, skills and conscious effort. Let’s see what we can do to help make all your trails happy ones.
Advice
- Mo Ranyart
The good news is that there’s no secret to bringing up unconventional sex acts with a partner; the same basic communication skills that are needed to talk about any other kinds of sex are what’s needed here. The bad news is…well, that there’s no secret to it! The simple answer to your question is…
