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soclara continues Because I lost all this weight without any form of exercise outside of basic walking when necessary or working, my body is legitimately disgusting. It’s flabby, loose, my breasts are like half empty sacks, my thighs are humongous blobs of fat and cellulite (not exaggerating, not…

Sometimes you meet an activist who is so dang cool you want to tell the whole world about it. We’re lucky to have two such folks who agreed to a Scarleteen interview: Luna Merbruja and Lexi Adist! Luna is the author of Trauma Queen, a member of the 2014 Trans 100 List, international performance…

What do you do in dating when one person is trans and one is cisgender?

You say that you’re not sure whether or not to end the relationship, but it sounds to me like part of you knows that many aspects of your relationship aren’t healthy and that ending it is what needs to happen. It’s completely normal to have conflicting feelings about that, but it’s also important to…

When someone comes into our direct services with a pregnancy scare, there are some things that we will and won’t do. We absolutely will help users who could clearly be or may soon become pregnant: with things like how to access emergency contraception, self-managed or surgical abortion, adoption…

Breakups are rarely any fun, for either party involved. It can be hard to figure out a way to end a romantic relationship without causing too much pain or awkwardness, especially when you still really care about the person you’re breaking up with. Since it sounds like you’re pretty sure that this…

When someone comes into our direct services with a pregnancy scare, there are some things that we will and won’t do. We absolutely will help users who could clearly be or may soon become pregnant: with things like how to access emergency contraception, abortion, adoption or prenatal care, how to…

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Hi there, I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling so lonely. First I want to tackle the fact that your friends in relationships seem to be drifting away from you and your group of friends. It’s unfortunate, but it is common for many people to pull away from their friends when they enter a relationship…

A great part about doing sex ed is that it’s a place where you can ask questions about all aspects of relationships. What can sometimes get forgotten, even in sex positive spaces, is that for some people kissing is as big a deal as sex is. Let’s tackle the first thing I notice in your question: that…

Eltahawy has traveled across the Middle East and North Africa, meeting with women and listening to their stories. Her book is a plea for outrage and action on their behalf, confronting a “toxic mix of culture and religion that few seem willing or able to disentangle lest they blaspheme or offend.”

The short answer is yep, using a vibrator should not compromise an IUD should you choose to get one. You can banish fears of enjoying a session with your favorite external vibe only to see your IUD on the floor. If you’re concerned about the interaction between the IUD strings and an inserted toy…

Public spotlight has focused intently on reproductive justice lately: in the campaigns of presidential hopefuls, in the media, and in the procedings of the U.S. legistlature. Debates have culminated this fall in a show-down on Capitol Hill as members of Congress attempt to de-fund Planned Parenthood. The House and Senate both voted to de-fund the organization, which amounts to cutting off Medicaid payouts to the non-profit that millions of low-income people depend on for healthcare. But wait a second: why are lawmakers making such a stink over Planned Parenthood anyway?

My answer to your question is at once simple and really, really complicated: don’t ask your mom permission. You’re an adult, you don’t need her permission, or anyone’s, to explore sex. Truthfully, you didn’t need her permission when you were sixteen either. Even when you’re a kid, what you choose to…

I think you are reading this situation absolutely right. That thing he’s doing, when you reach out to talk and he requests pictures and then threatens to break up if you won’t? That is a truly manipulative and toxic dynamic. It’s also a major red flag in terms of a relationship being abusive…

If you’re caring for a young person, then the question of when and how to have “the talk” with them has likely crossed your mind.

There are so many things that make me glad in your question. Glad that L has at least one person that he feels safe sharing that part of himself with. Glad you reacted positively and confirmed his trust in you. But oh how I am not glad that he’s still in a situation where he doesn’t feel comfortable…