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You know, if you went out on the street and asked 100 people what the “bases” were, I bet you’d get a TON of different answers. One of the issues with the old “baseball” analogy to describe sexual activities is that it is a culturally defined and influenced set of ideas. So different people define…

Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm, and it’s something that (especially during penetrative activities) usually goes unnoticed by both partners. The vagina is a wet environment, so you are not going to be able to feel the addition of some extra fluid. And (no matter what a partner may claim) men…

Mike Huckabee has recently been taken to task for his positions on the transmission and treatment of AIDS.

Yeast infections actually get their start in the intestinal tract, not in or on your genitals. Small amounts of yeast are normal and healthy in the body, but when certain factors cause that yeast – specifically candida albicans – to overgrow, that’s when you wind up with a yeast infection, which…

(Your question, continued) We continued to talk as “friends”, and I discussed the situation with his mom since he had told his parents what was going on. She explained that we needed to stop spending so much time alone and putting ourselves in such tempting situations, so my boyfriend and I talked…

You know, hormonal birth control often reduces or inhibits sexual desire or arousal for the person using it, too. For some people, pretty substantially. It does so because of what it does to a body hormonally: the only way condoms inhibit arousal or libido is if a guy using them (or opting not to)…

For birth control pills to be effective in preventing pregnancy, they have to be used correctly and consistently. Taking a birth control pill after sex won’t do anything to prevent pregnancy. And yep: it can sure make you feel a little loopy and confuse the heck out of your cycle. In order for your…

Hey there, Hartley. We DO know – experientially and statistically speaking – that young adults do tend to be less selective when it comes to their attractions and/or partners than older adults. Why is that? That’s where we don’t have such solid answers. By all means, you guys do have a lot more…

It’s really normal, as a relationship goes on over time, for sex to take a bit more of a backseat. It’s also common for things to be very high-key sexually when people first start dating. Novelty – something or someone being new – tends to put a high into many people’s sex drives, and when that…

You know, there are good reasons why we distinguish fantasy from reality. If your boyfriend not only expects that both of you CAN do everything he sees in pornography, but also that you will both – and not just because one of you does – even WANT to, then he needs a reality check. You don’t need…

Honestly, people need some from of preventative reproductive health care. Can you live without it? Some people can, but that is a gamble, and if you look at people in nations without any, you can get an idea for how that really just isn’t often healthy. Too, once you become sexually active it is…

While it’s common for women – especially young women – to feel pain or discomfort with sex, it’s not “normal” in that it has to happen or there isn’t an alternative. Sex is not supposed to hurt: it’s supposed to feel very good. If you’re bleeding after sex every time, and it’s also not feeling…

Increases in pregnancy and birth rates to any group, including teens, are about more than just what sort of sex education people are getting. By all means, a lack of accessible, approachable and accurate comprehensive sex education is always going to create problems with unwanted pregnancy. It always has. So, sound, accurate sexuality education is a vital starting point, but what else should we be addressing?

ANY direct genital contact that is unprotected ALWAYS puts you at a potential risk of pregnancy (when your partner has the genitals that could co-create one) and sexually transmitted infections. The vulva is a wet place, and sexual fluids like ejaculate and pre-ejaculate are also just that, fluid…

Nothing in the world is wrong with you. We explain this a lot here, but I’ll say it again: the majority of women do NOT reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. You’re not the only one asking, either. Sadly, more women than not have just never been informed as to how their sexual anatomy…

Before we get into anything else, I want to debunk a few things you’ve said here that don’t have any real basis. He wants more sex than me. Big surprise. He’s a man. Men don’t automatically want more sex than women. Not all men and all women, not even most men and most women. Mind, we can say that…

You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay. Remember that orgasm is primarily an event that occurs in, and is about, the nervous system. Yes, most people have most of their orgasms due to stimulation that is about or includes genital stimulus. But not all people, and again, for most, it’s not JUST…

Not only can you not stop your vagina and vulva from lubricating, that is what HAPPENS to people with vaginas when we become sexually aroused. It’s supposed to, ideally, because if we’re not lubricated, vulval and vaginal sex – as well as some kinds of clitoral stimulation – doesn’t feel very good…

When you don’t know the answer to something or can’t find it, it’s never, ever stupid to ask a question. What would be stupid is NOT to ask! Too, women – and plenty of people of other genders – are very often taught little to nothing about their sexual response systems and cycles, so not knowing…

Your boyfriend needs to understand and accept that it’s very unlikely he never pre-ejaculates if he does fully ejaculate, too. In other words, if, at his age, he’s reached the stage of puberty where he can ejaculate, then he also does pre-ejaculate. Pre-ejaculate is how the penis “prepares” itself…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from Who are rapists, and where did rape even come from?) Sometimes, someone being raped will clearly say no and will NOT clearly say yes. They might say no verbally, with words, they might say no by crying, they might…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from How can men know if someone is giving consent or not?) What more can we do to stop rape? There is a lot more all of us can do to help disengage our rape culture beyond not raping someone else. Since again, most…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from What is Rape & What Is It Like to Be Raped?) The vast majority of people who rape are and have always been male. That does not mean that most men are rapists. While many women will be raped, the majority will not…

(Part of How You Guys - That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape, and continued from Why Do Men Need to Know About Rape?) Rape is when one person wants and pursues a sexual act on, to or inside another person who does not want to participate, and who does not fully and freely consent to take part…

(Continued from How You Guys – That’s Right, You GUYS – Can Prevent Rape) Rape is often framed as about women, but it’s not. Something done TO us really isn’t about us. It’s the things that we choose to do which are about us, which is why it’s such an error for rape to be framed as a women’s issue…