Sex & Sexuality

What’s sex? What’s sexuality? How do people experience and actively express their sexualities, by themselves, with partners or both? How can we take part in sex in ways that are wanted and consensual, physically and emotionally safe and enjoyable for everyone? How do you figure out what you like? How can you communicate about sex? How do you deal with feelings like fear, shame, anxiety, dysphoria and other body image issues? How do you create the kind of sexual life you want? You’ll find the answers to all these and more here.

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  • Johanna Schorn

You and your partner have talked about your sexual and relationship history, and it sounds like you’ve also both tried to be honest in voicing your wants and needs when it comes to sex. That means that you two understand how important communication and honesty are when it comes to having a healthy…

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  • Heather Corinna

Our sexual development is a lifelong process, one we actually start before we’re even born. Our sexuality and sexual development isn’t the same at every stage, mind: infant or early childhood sexuality is a very different thing than adult sexuality. But it’s still almost always present in some…

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  • Heather Corinna

It’s obviously important if you’re here for information that you know what we mean when we say “sex,” so we thought we’d make it clear.

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  • Heather Corinna

It’s not actually accurate to suggest most cis women–or other people who have vaginas– have trouble reaching orgasm. A majority of people with vaginas do have trouble reaching orgasm through vaginal intercourse and simply cannot orgasm that way. It’s also true that many people with vaginas have…

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  • Heather Corinna

Your boyfriend sounds awesome. And how quickly he ejaculates right now really doesn’t have to present any problems if neither of you treat it like a problem. Just so you know, a lot of sex educators and therapists have big problems with the term and concept of “premature ejaculation” (PE) as it’s…

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  • Heather Corinna

prince_12’s question continued Really I am very ignorant that this is how the girl masturbate. I chatted with several guys two days ago, and now i am very worried about my body. Until this moment, I still feel jelly like and watery from down inside for no reason. I am not chatting for two days and I…

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  • Heather Corinna

There aren’t any “shoulds” here. Not all people with vaginas bleed with first-time intercourse or other kinds of vaginal entry: in fact, most don’t. Why some people do – and for how long they do – and some don’t also varies. As to how many people with vaginas do and don’t bleed after first…

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  • Heather Corinna

My hat’s off to you for being so thoughtful about the readiness of your partner. Too many people not as concerned as they should be about a partner’s readiness, and people are often particularly prone to presume male partners are always ready: that if men want sex, it’s all go, with no need to…

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  • Heather Corinna

A lot of what I’m reading in your post suggests to me that you two are just not in a good place for sex together right now. Someone telling you they don’t want to be intimate, that they don’t like it when you do sexual activities for them, that they don’t like to do them for you is usually telling…

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  • Heather Corinna

Sex addiction is a popular topic on talk-shows and in mainstream media (where the goal isn’t accuracy, but ratings), but it isn’t something many sexologists consider credible. I’m not on board with the idea myself. Our collective ugh about it has a lot to do with the way addiction is clinically…